I thought this was an interesting poem…
Mary T. Lathrap (1838-1895)
A WOMAN’S ANSWER TO A MAN’S QUESTION.
[Written in reply to a man’s poetic unfolding of what he conceived to be a woman’s duty.]
Do you know you have asked for the costliest thing
Ever made by the hand above—
A woman’s heart, and a woman’s life
And a woman’s wonderful love?
Do you know you have asked for this priceless thing
As a child might ask for a toy,
Demanding what others have died to win,
With the reckless dash of a boy?
You have written my lesson of duty out,
Man-like you have questioned me;
Now stand at the bar of my woman’s soul
Until I shall question thee.
You require your mutton shall always be hot,
Your socks and your shirt be whole;
I require your heart to be true as God’s stars,
And as pure as heaven your soul.
You require a cook for your mutton and beef;
I require a far better thing.
A seamstress you’re wanting for socks and shirts;
I look for a man and a king.
A king for the beautiful realm called home,
And a man that the maker, God,
Shall look upon as he did the first
And say, “It is very good.”
I am fair and young, but the rose will fade
From my soft, young cheek one day,
Will you love me then ‘mid the falling leaves,
As you did ‘mid the bloom of May?
Is your heart an ocean so strong and deep,
I may launch my all on its tide?
A loving woman finds heaven or hell
On the day she is made a bride.
I require all things that are grand and true,
All things that a man should be;
If you give all this, I would stake my life
To be all you demand of me.
If you cannot do this — a laundress and cook
You can hire, with little to pay,
But a woman’s heart and a woman’s life
Are not to be won that way.
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“Jesus knows what it feels like to bring a heartfelt, passionate prayer to God and to hear God say, in effect, ‘I’ve got something else in mind. I have another plan. And that plan is going to involve intense suffering on your part.’ Somehow it helps me to know that Jesus wrestled with God’s plan for his life – and his death – even as he submitted to it, because I, too, have wrestled with God’s plan for my life even as I have sought to submit to it. Maybe you have too.
What we need most is not to hear God say yes to our requests. What we need is to be filled with such deep confidence in the character of our Father that when he says no, we know he is doing what is right and good for us. What we need most is the faith to trust him.
Some claim that strong faith is defined by throwing our energies into begging God for a miracle that will take away our suffering and then believing without doubting that he will do it. But faith is not measured by our ability to manipulate God to get what we want; it is measured by our willingness to submit to what he wants.
It takes great faith to say to God, ‘Even if you don’t heal me or the one I love, even if you don’t change my circumstances, even if you don’t restore this relationship, even if you allow me to lose what is most precious to me, I will still love you and obey you and believe that you are good. And I believe that you, as my loving Father, will use everything in my life – even the hard and hurtful things – for my ultimate good and your eternal glory, because you love me.’ ”
Well, here we are just 2 months into being home in America, having traveled the world, in a manner of speaking…
…and I’m excited to inform you that a baby has gotten me a job! Read on for the explanation.
On August 2, I arrived home. And, forewarned of the current job market & economy, I anticipated a lengthy wait until I could find new employment.
So, not feeling too rushed or anxious about the job-hunt process, I headed out to Phoenix for 3 weeks. Here, I spent 20 wonderful days with my sister, Nora, brother-in-law, Travis, and niece and nephew, Kate and Grant, pictured with me below:
The days were filled with potty-training for Kate (2 years + 4 months), bottles for growing Grant (born May 13), and LOTS of coffee for the tired adults It was a neat time of re-connecting with my sister, seeing her life as a young, grace-filled mother, and also catching up with friends:
Overnight in Tucson with Timarie Lambros and Britt McKenna…gelato after 4 hours of repelling on Mount Lemmon…
The Two “Aunties” Double-Date with Kate
Overnight with the Nam Family, four little kids that I used to babysit here in MD who have all grown up into amazing, fun, godly kids!
Then, I came home on September 22, having secured some networking meetings and job leads in D.C., but no specific offers…
Well, as the story goes, a baby got me a job
Two days after I got home, I received an email from two different friends. They were both forwarding me the same e-mail from a particular lady who had posted a job notice on their Google Group (Thanks, Google! ) It came from a woman that was going on maternity leave this month, and whose job was opening up as a temporary position at FRC, Family Research Council.
I e-mailed this acquaintance, Alyssa Groen, expressing interest in the position. While I had been focusing my efforts on finding a job in the international non-profit sector, and this position was within an organization that does domestic public policy on Capital Hill, I thought I would check it out.
Through the course of a few e-mails, Alyssa and I realized what a small world it was. She and I had both spent time serving in Africa, had friends at RVA where I just spent this past year in Kenya, and both had connections to Africa Inland Mission. Even more crazy was the fact that she and her husband attend the newly planted church in Arlington called “Redeemer,” which is a church-plant off of my home church, Covenant Life! How ironic: I just so happened to be visiting the Arlington church THAT very Sunday, so we agreed to meet in person and chat more.
So, last Sunday, we met up at church and chatted for a few minutes about the position at FRC. As of that point in time, they had already offered the job to someone, and were waiting to hear back. So, I didn’t think it was going to turn into anything.
On Monday, Alyssa informed me that the person declined the position, and they wanted me to come in for a interview.
So, I interviewed Wednesday, received a job offer this past Thursday morning, negotiated the contract on Friday, and will start my training THIS Monday! FRC has graciously been accommodating of the fact that I had already planned a trip to Italy with my two girlfriends from Oct 5-16, so they are fine with me starting full-time when I get back.
So, what’s the position? I will be directly reporting to the VP of Advancement & Donor Relations within an administrative assistant role. However, this role will also include direct marketing for new supporters, grant/proposal writing and website copy writing, managing relationships with donors, and a handful of other responsibilities. Alyssa is on maternity leave, so the position is temporary for now, but will be re-evaluated at the end of January, with a strong possibility of it turning into full-time employment.
I am very excited about this opportunity! Not only am I going to have the opportunity to work with a great group of Christian professionals, but I also will have an up-close-and-personal look at the important issues that we are lobbying for on Capital Hill. Many of the core values that FRC is fighting to uphold within the government are ones that are near and dear to my own heart and convictions (and very possibly, yours too!), so it will be such an honor to represent FRC in this way.
So, thanks to Alyssa’s baby for helping create this opening for me!
For the moment, though…I’m resting from my Sprint Triathlon yesterday…
…and then I’m off to ITALY on Tuesday night!
Yes, I know, my suitcase seems to be magnet for packing. My two childhood girlfriends and I will be spending 11 days touring Venice, Florence, Tuscany, Cinque Terre and Rome between October 5 and 16th. What a treat. I can’t wait for the fun of traveling with people I have known for years and years…living/traveling within Africa this past year was awesome, but sometimes it was sad knowing that no one was ever going to be able to put it into context, in the same way that you can when you actually experience the same things TOGETHER.
So, back in a few weeks. Stay tuned.
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The official day of “fall” is coming up, and in my book, that means an instinctive urge to crunch on sweet apples, make yummy dishes like curry butternut squash soup and my Mom’s ginger molasses snaps, drink hot apple cider and pumpkin spice lattes, go shopping and be inspired, and of course, read good books.
Though I am out here in Phoenix with my sister, and the hot, dry weather does not exactly conjure up that “tingle” in slightly snippy air, I am discovering some great reads. This is mostly due to the fact that when the kids take their “rest-time,” I NEED my own rest-time
So, here is a list of some of my favorite 2010 reads that I think you may enjoy, as well as a handful of books I am currently reading:
The Kalahari Typing School for Men
Alexander McCall Smith
The fourth installment in a series called “The No. 1 Ladies Detective Agency,” this book is just as addicting as the first, second and third! Smith has created a witty series about a local woman from Botswana who receives a large inheritance after her father passes away and decides to set up her own detective agency in town. Each book provides mysterious “cases” of how she helps her fellow people to solve their personal, and often private mysteries. Not only do the stories, themes, dialogue, jokes, cinematography, and music resonate in my own heart after living in Kenya for a year, but the main character, Precious Ramotswe, provides a refreshing perspective of a single working professional woman in another country that I have never had before. I highly recommend this series to other ladies in particular.
A Praying Life: Connecting with God in a Distracting World
Paul E. Miller
There aren’t many spiritual books that I have read in my lifetime where I came away thinking, “Wow, this book has changed my life.” Well, A Praying Life is one of those special few. Never in my life have I read a book so helpful, practical, and uplifting for my soul. Miller sets out both biblical and theologically sound arguments for all the ‘W”s of prayer: Who, What, When, Where, Why and How. He uses personal examples. He provides simple testimonies of answers to prayer. And, I have truly benefited from applying this book to my personal, daily prayer life. It will definitely be on my list to read at least every other year.
It’s no surprise that “The Help” is the #1 New York Times Bestseller! Stockett must have surprised her readers (and herself) by being a first-time author, but she has no trouble setting the stage for a wonderful, ‘down-South’ story that follows the lives of three women (black, white, old, young, respected, shunned, privileged, poor, etc.) who couldn’t be more different than the way Southerners & Northerners each make their own BBQ and cornbread. I’m only on page 97 of 451, but am thoroughly soaking up each chapter…if you want a “feel-good” book in which you really get to know characters, their lives, and how people overcome racial injustices, you’ll want to pick this one up. It’s not only easy to read before you go to bed, but it will make you laugh out LOUD! (My Mom attests to that.)
“The Best of A.W. Tozer”
Compiled by Warren Wiersbe
No one can compare to C.S. Lewis. But, when I read Tozer, it’s like tasting a new, inspiring variation of some type of comfort food. Ok, so that’s a bad metaphor, but I can’t think of another one at the moment This year, I read my first book by Tozer called “The Knowledge of the Holy.” It is all about various attributes of God’s character, and how we as humans should respond to the knowledge of those attributes, both in awe and and gratefulness and obedience. This book contains excerpts from The Knowledge of the Holy, as well as The Pursuit of God, God’s Pursuit of Man, How to Be Filled with the Holy Spirit, I Talk Back to the Devil, Who Put Jesus on the Cross? and others! It is a rich collection, and one that keeps me on my toes through a combination of theology, philosophy, logic, and apologetic’s. Each excerpt is also perfect for a short devotional time, usually being being two and three pages max.
“The Path of Loneliness”
Let’s face it. We ALL feel lonely at various points in our life, and through various seasons of trials and difficult circumstances. As I continue to walk through the process of re-entry back to America, and wade through a season of many unknowns, Elliot provides a very encouraging perspective in this book. She herself faced incredible sorrow in her life, losing multiple husbands and being made a widow multiple times. Ultimately, I think this book is helping me realize that I am made for one, perfect, all-satisfying relationship alone, and that is with Jesus Christ. So, whether you are single, married, widowed, divorced, a young mother, an empty-nest mother, or just feeling a bit lonely in life these days, I would encourage you to pick up this book and allow Elliot’s godly and inspiring perspective refresh your soul. Here is a quote from one of the earlier chapters:
“It is here (in loneliness), where we happen to be at this moment and not in another place or another time, that we may learn to love Him – here where it seems He is not at work, where His will seems obscure or frightening, where He is not doing what we expected Him to do, where He is most absent. Here and nowhere else is the appointed place. If faithd oes not go to work here, it will not go to work at all.”
READ THIS YEAR
You may also enjoy reading…
1. All of Grace, Spurgeon
2. Gift from the Sea, Anne Morrow Lindbergh
3. Stolen Lives: Twenty Years in a Desert Jail, Malika Oufkir
4. The Ishbane Conspiracy, Alcorn
5. Instrument in the Redeemer’s Hands, Paul Tripp
6. All Things for Good, Thomas Watson
7. Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell
8. Death in the Garden, Elizabeth Ironside
9. My Life in France, Julia Child
10. Grug: Ideas for an Urban, Organic Kitchen, Anna Lappe